School Girls Who Escaped From Boko Haram Tell Story Of Terrible Incident [PHOTOS]

The school girls who managed to escape from the hands of Boko Haram have returned to the school to tell their story.

The girls, who have now become an international spectacle, gathered with family and well-wishers as they recounted the traumatic incident and campaigned for the safe return of their counterparts.

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“HOW GOD SAVED US FROM THE ABUJA BOMB BLAST – THROUGH T.B. JOSHUA’S ANOINTING WATER

  

Three survivors of the Nyanya bomb blast that killed over 70 people in Nigeria’s capital Abuja last week and left hundreds more injured recounted their stories in T.B. Joshua’s church this weekend, attributing their survival to Divine providence.

Candidus Ebge from Benue State said that he was in a public vehicle about to approach the popular bus depot when the explosion occurred. “The next thing I could see was our car in the air, far above human height,” Egbe testified in The Synagogue, Church Of All Nations (SCOAN) in Lagos. “The car then landed back on the ground with force,” he continued. “I don’t know how but I found myself outside the vehicle on the other side of the road. I never struggled to come out.”According to Candidus, the person sitting beside him in the vehicle was among the casualties. Remarkably, he didn’t sustain any injury.

“If not for God, they would have announced my obituary on Monday,” he soberly declared, displaying pictures he had taken of corpses strewn by the road where he miraculously found himself standing. Egbe attributed his survival to the fact that he had ministered ‘Anointing Water’ from T.B. Joshua that morning and had an ‘Anointing Sticker’ in his pocket at the time of the deadly incident.

Pastor Damfa Adams from Plateau State was in the Nyanya bus depot about to purchase a ticket when the bomb exploded. “Suddenly, I heard a blast; I saw fire,”he vividly recounted to the congregation. “Some close to me fell to the ground; some died instantly. It was like a force protected me.” That morning, the pastor from Righteousness Covenant Church explained, he had ministered ‘Anointing Water’ from The SCOAN and prayed for Divine protection and preservation.


“The scene of the blast was just 10 meters from where I was standing,” he added.“My ears were deafened. After leaving the scene, I brought out the Anointing Water, ministered it in my ears and my sense of hearing was restored instantly.”The only scar visible was a scratch above his left eye caused by a glass splinter that flew out from the inferno. If the glass had hit him an inch lower, he added, it would almost certainly have left him blind.

Evangelist Maria Ajekukor from Abuja narrated that she left home that Mondaymorning without her Anointing Sticker from The SCOAN and, upon realising, quickly returned back to pick it up. “It increases your faith that God is with you, protecting you throughout your journey,” she explained in a testimony aired live via the church’s television station Emmanuel TV. Her destination was Nyanya bus depot from where she planned to change vehicles and visit GT Bank in Maraba. A vehicle pulled up but Maria did not have the exact change to purchase a ticket and was neglected by the conductor. “I only had N500 and N1000 notes. They angrily left me as they expected me to have the right amount of money.” Little did Evangelist Maria know that the conductor refusing her entry to that bus was actually supernaturally engineered to save her life.

Boarding a vehicle that came shortly afterwards, as they were approaching Nyanya, the sound of the explosion shattered the silence. “It was not just once. The first one went before we heard another two loud bangs.” In the ensuing chaos with the passengers abandoning the vehicle, Maria sought to get closer the scene of the explosion. A shocking sight lay before her. “It was then I saw the very first bus who asked me if I had the correct change. I saw bodies all over the floor. I saw legs on one side, arms on another side – different parts of the body scattered. It was like a nightmare,” she vividly described. That particular bus was at the very spot where the explosion occurred. All on board died. “Because of this Anointing Sticker, that is why I am alive today,” she tearfully concluded. “God is merciful.”

Controversial Pastor T.B. Joshua claimed to have predicted the blast in Abuja back in November where he warned of an explosion and called on people in the nation’s capital to be vigilant and prayerful. The YouTube video of the said prediction has been viewed almost 200,000 times.



-Reported by Ihechukwu Njoku, a freelance Nigerian journalist currently in Lagos, Nigeria

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How To Kiss: 10 Things You Do That Make You A Terrible Kisser

Kissing is not what we think it is. It is not an intimation of sex. Kissing is not supposed to be a step to what happens next in the bedroom like most people imagine. Kissing is an alternate language; like a second language for lovers where they tease, connect and discover an accord. A good kiss expresses those feelings that lovers can share only indirectly; passing a silent message across that words can’t describe. To understand how to kiss passionately and be good at it, we have to first know the things we should not do that will make kissing a terrible experience. These are 10 things you do that make you a bad kisser:


1. Jumping the gun: it is always better if both of you want the kiss. If she doesn’t want it and you just assumed that she does, you’ll come off as a terrible kisser as she will be stiff and very impassive, making you look bad. Make sure she wants the kiss just as much as you do. Study her eyes, her lips and be sure it is not just your hormone playing tricks on you. If you are not sure, ask if you can steal a kiss. Better than the akward silence that will follow after your “terrible” kiss.

2. Bad breath: let us all be sincere, no one likes talking to someone with bad breathe or have them breathing down your neck much less sharing a kiss with them. No matter how perfect you are in kissing, bad breath is a total turn-off. Apart from brushing regularly, invest in a good mouthwash and also have a pack of healthy minty chewing gum with you; you never can know when they will come in handy.

3. Excessive french kissing: this is a common mistake most people make. They confuse passion with penetration, therefore they over-use the tongue. Their tongue is everywhere; in your mouth, on your tongue, running over your teeth. They could have as well strangled you as you feel choked. Slow and steady wins the race, remember.

4. Kissing with too much spit in your mouth: the sight of saliva all over your partner’s face is just disgusting. Rather than enjoying the kiss, he will be much more concerned about the saliva you are painting his face with. Wet is good, yeah but slobering is terrible! Swallow excessive spit in your mouth at intervals and when you know your lips are dry, take a break and start all over.

5. Taking off clothes within seconds: what’s the rush? Some people believe kissing should be the hint you need to know that he wants to get down with you. Kissing is far more intimate and erotic than sex. It says a whole lot of things without speaking. If you are of the school of thought that kissing intimates sex, you should really go back and learn what kissing is about. Enjoy your partner’s mouth and take your time. No need tearing off clothes like a dog in heat.

6. Vampire Traits?: when one uses too much teeth . Instead of nibbling softly, he/she bites so hard that your lips are swollen after the whole thing. Some even have their lips injured. It is not suya, it is the human lips. Softly does it all the time.

7. Kissing not Teething: he/she forgets the lips and constantly bumps your teeth with theirs. It is not only aakward having teeth clash together, it is very uncool. Stop it, before you chip a tooth.

8. Sucking on the tongue: the idea is to play with the tongue and not suck on it like it is your favourite candy. It can be really painful and takes out the passion. The other person becomes self conscious and is no longer feeling it.

9. Face guzzling: placing tiny, feathery kisses all over the face can be really cute and romantic. It is even more erotic when there are just the lightlest nibbles involved like you can rarely feel the the teeth digging into your flesh but you are properly turned on by the light nibbles and kisses. When you are all over the face with wet tongue, that’s not it. That’s what a puppy will do to its owner. Licking the face and leaving saliva all over is just gross.

10. Swallowing the lips: this one is funny and disgusting too. They open their mouth and take your lips; both bottom and upper lips in their mouth at once. Just imagine someone sucking on orange with all their might, exactly what this is like. Except your aim is to have their lunch as dinner, do not do this!!

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THINGS NOT TO DO ON A FIRST DATE

Haha!! Gotcha… Firstly, this is Nigeria. No matter how many Gossip girl episodes you’ve watched, we do not go on dates. We Nigerians like to “see” or “just chill”. We may say we are dating but we know it’s really “going out”. That’s what you told that Jennifer from Ozone isn’t it? Don’t deny it. You’ve probably got her name saved as Jennifer-Ozone on your phone. Anyway, I did promise to tell you things not to do, so I’ll do just that.

1)Being Yourself
I cannot stress how important this is. A lot of romantic how-tos and self-help guides say you need just be yourself. Hmmph.. famous last words. Which one of your selves? The clumsy, step on your toes, can’t hold a tray to save your life self, or the stammering nervous wreck you become when the pretty chic shows up? I think not. Then again you might be a smooth, suave, Don Draper-esque womanizer but you are reading this article, so I think not. Do a few stretching exercises to limber up then slide out of your skin like a greased penguin on ice. You should be aiming for Barney Stinson meets Damon from Vampire Diaries. If however, you are suave and cool, then by all means be you.

2) Being too open
You are warm, fuzzy, and entertaining, regaling her with tale after tale of your childhood. In about 30 minutes, she is relaxed and open. She begins to tell you embarrassing stories about herself. You are pretty close now, just like old friends. BAM!! Friendzone. You didn’t even see it coming. A gentleman should have a bit of mystery about him. Oui, the ladies love it.

3) Arguing
We all love our TV series. Many a couple have bonded over mutual love for a show or a character. Do not, for whatever reason, get into an argument over which Salvatore brother is hotter (arguments over the Hemsworths are ok), Justin Beiber’s sexual orientation(if she’s arguing this, she’s probably too young, bro), or whatever touchy topic might come up. You can catch more honeys with a well timed nod and listening than all the oratory of Cicero.

4) Trying to impress
Quick math bro. An average hot chic meets a guy every 5 minutes. That’s 300 guys in 5 hours. Ok, maybe not that much but she’d still meet a lot. You’d be hard pressed to be hotter, fresher, richer, etc-er than all these dudes. What you bring to the interaction shouldn’t be monetary, or physical but rather something that expresses your uniqueness and creativity (or that of the cool dude you are playing). Your witty speech and improvisation skills have never had a better platform. Think of it as selling yourself. What is important to the customer isn’t why you are better than the competition, but why you are best for them.

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Lust, The Very Important Ingredient in Love

  

Didn’t we all grow up learning from our parents, mothers especially, that lust is very different from love and that whoever loves you won’t lust after you?

Well, the truth is that both love and lust are interwoven and the latter helps the former to last longer.

In every relationship, the initial thing that keeps you going is the spark that both parties can’t do without but as time goes by, that which seemed to be the spark before goes down and the relationship might not be as fun as it used to be.

However, with the emergence of Fifty Shades Of Grey and sex toys and whatever helps people regain more sexual interest in their spouses, we have come to realise that to keep a relationship/marriage stronger, lust is very much required.

Author of the Fifty shades trilogy, E.L James, revealed in an interview that a fifty something year old woman mailed her, thanking her for giving her marriage a spark that had been long lost because of her erotic book, adding that she’d not had an orgasm in years and that the book helped her get an orgasm.

This goes to say that the new “lust level” that the book delved into, helped that relationship become stronger. In other words, a dash of lust saved the day!

When a long term couple have non-conventional sex I.e take the sex out of the bedroom or the usual places, they find themselves looking forward to a next time or even wanting to do more as if they just got together.

This goes to say that as much as lust is totally different from love, it is something love can use…a lot!

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Reasons even the best relationships crash

 
When your relationship has lots of problems or when your partner gives you more headache than love, you aren’t exactly shocked when it breaks.

But when it seems all is well in paradise but suddenly the relationship blows up in your face, then maybe some of the things listed below might be the problem.

1. Lack of communication- there is no underestimating the place of communication in a relationship. A whole lot of problems can be evaded if there’s constant communication in a relationship and by communication I don’t mean conversations limited to the phone alone. I mean sitting down face to face and trashing out whatever needs to be trashed out.

When communication ceases to exist, then no matter how fantastic your relationship seems to be, its only a matter of time before it all expires.

2. Physical intimacy alone- being in love is way beyond the physical and being in a relationship needs more than intense lovemaking and chemistry.

While that can’t be ignored, you need to be more than physically involved with your partner. You need to be mentally, emotionally and deeply involved with your partner.

Be there for them emotionally and cater to their emotional needs as much as you would their physical needs.

Once this isn’t there or isn’t as much as the physical catering, that relationship is ending pretty much soon.

3. It becomes mundane- at the initial stage, it is all honeymoon-ish and you both could stay indoor all week long but these days all you do is repeat the same old routine of even having fun.

If you realise you are with this person more as a routine or chore and there’s no effort whatsoever to make things get back on track or better, then it is going to crack really soon.

4. Not on the same page- people do change and we all become to see life differently at some stages in life, so sometimes in a relationship, a couple might begin to share different beliefs, ideas and principles about things that initially brought them together.

If this happens, there’s likely going to be problems. The only way a break can be avoided is when there is honest/open communication.

5. No compromise- we aren’t the same people. And in relationships(even friendship) a lot of compromise is made. Each partner has to let go of some things so there can be a blissful relationship. But when one party isn’t willing to compromise for the other party anymore, wahala go dey.

6. The real him/her emerges- at the beginning, its all fairytale or IGG(initial gra gra) like we’d call it and both of you are extremely in love.

But when that phase passes, there’s the real person emerging and sometimes, that person is extremely different from what you thought. This can cause the relationship to go downhill.

7. Criticism- Once upon a time, he/she could do no wrong. Now all that’s happening is either one of you constantly criticising the other party.

This never works. Nobody wants to constantly get rebuked. Even as kids we hated it and that’s why we always tried to do things that wouldn’t make mommy go off on us.

If all you/your partner does is tear each other apart by launching into several issues the other party has every other time, you are killing that relationship.

How about you sit down and communicate? Which takes us back to the first point, communication. It can never be overstretched

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Five Things You Should Know Before You’re Twenty-One

  

Nobody is perfect and nobody knows it all. But life keeps moving and sometimes, things get overwhelming before we can wrap our heads around them happening.

To survive however, we need to know a few things about life.

Note: this isn’t me saying categorically that this is how life is, heck I am all but young myself. This is me suggesting a few things that if known and remembered will help us go through life a little easily with less disappointment.

1. You are not one of a kind – this is sadly true. No matter how talented you are at your craft, no matter how great you do your job well, you aren’t the only person who can get it done that way. Yes. There are others who can do it that way or even better and the moment you realise that, the better things get for you. Because you begin to put it at the back of your mind that if you take anything for granted in life, you will surely be replaced.

2. The world doesn’t end because you are having a bad day- No. Life goes on. Whether you are angry at the entire universe for being in such a bad place at the moment isn’t really anybody’s concern. Someone somewhere is having it better and hoping the day won’t end so it really isn’t all about you.

Try helping yourself by working towards getting better, pour out your heart to whoever helps and don’t sulk.

Also, don’t try to ruin someone else’s day because of that. Remember, the world doesn’t revolve around you.

3. Do not settle for less - growing up in Nigeria has shaped us to believe that it is okay not to have what we deserve and when we eventually get it, we begin to shower praises on whoever gives us like it is not our right in the first place.

For instance, the police catches a kidnapping duo and we go all “accolades and praises” on them. Like seriously? It’s the damn police people’s job to do these things. They should catch the bad guys, make the society liveable for us and it shouldn’t be a big deal when they do their jobs. But then we only shower them with praises because they really never do their jobs on a good day.

A governor gives us what we should get and we are excited, we say it is the best, simply because the other governors have treated the state so bad we have gotten used to it and it is a miracle that this one gives us what we truly deserve.

And we go on getting comfortable with unhealthy things in our personal lives as well and are appreciative when the good things we truly deserve come our way once in a while.

We settle for less because we have been made to believe we are lucky to get that little.

No. You deserve more than little. You deserve more. Believe that and do not let anybody take you for granted.

4. Be cordial with everyone- Sometimes we meet downright annoying people. And they are so annoying even the term asshole begins to sound cute for them. But again, life is too short and full of opportunities to have a fight with everyone.

Stay out of the way of people who add nothing to you and who easily set you off, keep a cordial relationship with them and live your life keeping very little enemies(if you must).

5. Be your own “go to” person- to be honest, nobody is always there for anybody. Everyone’s got their individual problems and as much as that special friend/person might promise to be there always there are times when he/she won’t be there for you when you desperately need them.

Instead of sitting down, hoping for someone to talk to, help yourself out by taking a deep breath, think about the situation and find a way to feel better all by yourself.

Also, if you’ve been hurt by someone, you don’t have to go to them to try and understand why they hurt you so bad. Sometimes they might be available and tell you why but sometimes they might not.

You need to then do your own closure all by yourself because the more it hurts, the more harm you cause yourself not them

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Bad Advice From A Good Friend~Knowing When To Say No

  

Friends are good, really good friends are really good and their advice usually means well.

When you need help deciding on what dress to buy or what decision to make regarding a few things in your life, sometimes you just need a close friend’s candid advice. An advice that will help you make that decision rightly.

Sometimes you’ve even already made the decision, you just need a second opinion and so you ask.

However, these opinions/advice they give might do more harm than good. Here’s how to spot the advice that might make you feel worse and how to say No.

When a friend advises you to dump your man because he is broke and doesn’t spend money on you, here’s how to know if the advice would backfire if taken;

Is she in a relationship herself? Is she more of the i-am-made-for-a-rich-man-and-so-i-wont-be-wise-to-be-self-made-myself type?

Is she one who has had three or more relationships with several rich men in the past one year? Does her relationship life suck so much you know she needs some sort of intervention herself?

These questions and more are what you should ask yourself before taking her advice. Remember, her advice doesn’t make her a bad person. She’s still your good friend, so politely discard the advice and not her and use your own head.

This man you are being asked to dump, is he diverting all his hard earned money into a personal project? Is he saving towards a good cause? Does he have some responsibility he is dedicated to at the moment? If yes, you would be a fool to dump him for not spending the money on you and your frivolities.

Besides, who says you can’t be Miss Independent and even help your man financially if need be?

When a friend advises you to leave your present job and find a new one, you should consider the dangers in quitting a job when you have no idea where your next cheque might be coming in from.

She might be concerned, telling you to leave your present job because of how harsh it has been on you recently but the truth is the economy is harsher and so is joblessness.

Work very hard towards securing a good job and only then should you take the leap. Remember, no wise person tests the depth of a river with both legs. Only leave when you are certain of your next income.

“One more drink won’t hurt…” This advice usually happens on night outs when everyone is letting their hair down and getting rid of the stress they might have gone through during the day/week.

However, as much as it is often true that one more drink won’t hurt, one more drink sometimes does hurt.

The deal here is, only you know your limit and how you would feel hours after exceeding that limit. Ask yourself which is the sane thing to do, disregarding the suggestion or having to take care of a nasty hangover the morning after.

The choice is yours.

When your friends nudge you to flirt, saying its just flirting and your man won’t find out, is another advice that might get you into trouble.

One thing you should immediately ask yourself is “if this were my boo being asked to do this, would I feel okay if I learnt about it?”. Then also put it in mind that flirting sometimes lead to a whole string of events that might end up nasty. You might keep enjoying the company, the person you’re flirting with might want more, your partner might eventually find out, it’l hurt and things would get bad.

Just save yourself the drama and don’t acknowledge every hot man who stares at you/whom your friends nudge you to flirt with.

Most importantly, feel free always to discuss with your friends whatever you feel comfortable enough with. Just always know when to draw the line where advice is concerned and make sure important decisions about your life are taken by no other person than you.

If its not you, then God. Never hand over the decision making of your life to others.

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Hold it! Five things you should really shut up about

  

Very recently, music superstar Dapo “D’banj” Oyebanjo granted an interview to Saturday punch during which he talked about his wristwatch and how exclusive it was to just him and rapper, entrepreneur/business mogul, Shawn “JayZ” Carter.

He also talked about the worth and all that and it wasn’t long before Nigerians took to social media, twitter especially, to express their disappointment and displeasure on his “bragging” and “blood getting hot”.

They felt he was going a bit too far, talking about how much his material things cost because nobody really cares anyway.

Let’s think about it, he’s rich, a music superstar who is known across the continent and who has broken new grounds recently. That means he is rich yes? And that means he can afford the very good life yes? And that means we expect him to have the flashiest/most expensive things money can buy yes? But it sure doesn’t mean we wanna hear him brag about them! Because we really don’t care.

Nobody cares how much your car costs, or how much your jacket is worth or how much money you part with to acquire your newest set of shoes. Nobody.

Now D’banj isn’t the only one guilty of this crime, many of us are also guilty of it. I know friends who would go on and on about how they shopped till they dropped on bbm or friends who would update every new accessory they get on their PMs and DPs or worse, the ones who visit a foreign country and who take pictures everywhere and everyday (making us wonder if they went there to take a photography course) and who upload them with captions like #DubaiChilling #LondonBridgeposing #Hollywoodtinz #LAshopping. It is annoying to read those things and honestly, it comes across as childish most times(if not every time).

Yorubas would describe people who make so much noise/brag about the material things they acquire as “Omo oju o ri ola ri” this simply means, people who are so impressed with little money and overwhelmed by it that they begin to brag about it.

Here are some things you really should shut up about, so you don’t go looking like a child to everybody. Because trust me, they wouldn’t tell you, but I am nice enough to.

NB: these aren’t only material things.

1. Your clothes or shoes or hair or car or whatever thing you just recently acquired: whether it is a whooping sum of 1million naira that got you that new bag or jaw dropping sum of 10million naira that got you your new car, please do not tell it to the world. Ask yourself, when you tell the world, do you feel better? Does it make them respect you more? Actually this is an answer to the second question, no. People lose respect for you when you go on bragging about your material things. So shut up, live your life without telling the world how you just blew money fast.

2. The place you just recently visited or are visiting: its okay when you decide to visit wherever you choose but it is NOT okay to visit these places and then decide to create a picture slide on bbm, adding PMs that are really nobody’s business or go to twitter and make so much noise about it. Remember you aren’t the first person to visit these places and you really need to chill.

3. The number of people you’ve been with: with the recent higher rate of western influence on Africa, I am not sure who boasts more about who they’ve slept with; guys or girls. All I know is that, these days, it seems to be a trophy winning situation for so many people and they can’t wait to get on twitter to share nudes while talking about the sexcapades. Really?! This is appalling and extremely ridiculous! Sometimes I wonder if these people finish the act before even talking about it on social media.

We don’t care who last sucked your banana and how skilfully or badly she did it. Neither do we care about the last boy you got down with, it is not “fashionable” or “cool” to talk about it, so shut the hell up and keep to yourselves that piece of information.

4. The Lies you have told: I don’t know when being a “bad ass liar” became a really cool thing. I honestly can’t say. All I know is I woke up one morning and yeah, it was the coolest norm around.

It is bad enough that some people lie, it is more depressing that they share the stories of how cool they are with the act with their friends and the whole world every other time.

This is what sharing this type of information can do to your relationship with other people, it would make people trust you less and doubt whatever you say to them. They would also let every other person who they care about and who wants to trust you with anything know what type of person you are. After all you are a bad ass liar, why should they believe you?

5. How great your boo is: I absolutely am not saying this is how you should show your love to the world. I am not saying everyone should go low profile with their relationship, but the less attention you pull to yourself, the better for you both.

Women, if you tell your friends how amazing your boo is and all the special things he does for you, they just might get jealous and try out the good for themselves.

I have seen friends try it out with their friend’s lover. In fact, I knew of a friend during my school days who took over her friend’s man and they were all in the same class!

Guys, this goes for you also, talk less about your woman before someone else decides to see for themselves how wonderful you claim she is.

I know it is not as common with men as it is with women, but it does happen!

Learn to zip it and live life easier!

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Is It Really OK to RESPECT YOUR EX Regardless Of The Type Of Break up?

 

Life can be cruel, complicated and weird sometimes as your one time yori yori might end up becoming that b*tch or that b*stard. However its advisable to keep calm and not tell your ‘next about your ex’. Stories that touch the heart occurs yeah I know, and really you might end up cuddling each other after telling him the story of that **stupid boy**. Or you might win a session after telling her about that your nonsense ex chick. But really is it fresh to tell your current boyfriend/girlfriend about your ex? I’ll say NO.

You might be dealing with a fantastic actor who because he/she has heard about the lapses of your ex might want to act like that man/woman from heaven.

Again it breeds comparison between the ex and the current partner. Telling your current partner about the ex might lead to comparing them later; checking what you enjoyed from the previous relationship that is not in the current relationship and be like…. “My ex will never say that to me”. I tell you, the world is made up of more than 8 billion people that have different blood types running in their system – you can’t expect them to act alike… Never expect them to act alike.

Cursing your ex or the memory you guys shared together is also something you should stop doing. It is said that we should never regret whatever once made us smile, why it isn’t making us smile again is what we should be concerned about and if the ex has done something bad that eventually led to the break up, just ignore it and kill that ex with maturity. Show them that you’re grown and happier without them.

Try to be cool every time you see your ex, don’t give that “I hate you” look anytime you see your ex and don’t friendzone them. As you once both shared something together, feelings might turn up again which could be dangerous and could lead to breaking the current partner’s heart and lead to an endless cycle of heartbreaks. Maintain an acquaintance-like relationship with the ex, no calls but say hi when you see them.. I think that’s maturity.

In conclusion, sit down and reminisce on why the previous relationship failed and think of how you can make the current one work and last longer and probably have a happier ending **U know what I mean?** Yeah…….
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Bad Belle People…..Steer Clear!

They talk about you, they judge you, they speculate, they point fingers, they stab you in the back, they create drama, they are never happy for you, always hating, always wishing they have what you have….your man, your friends, your clothes, your shoes, your life…. they can never just let you be.

These people are known as bad belle….steer clear.

Bad belle people don’t necessarily have to be your enemies, they are in most cases found amongst your closest friends and even families. There is a popular Swahili proverb that says, ‘kikulacho ki nguoni mwako’… Direct translation to English and it says…. ‘whatever is eating you is in your own dress, simply meaning that some people will pretend to be your friends, eat with you, live with you etc. These so-called friends might even be perceived to have your best interest at heart, HOWEVER, they are the ones you want to be wary of!

Over the years I have made a lot of friends, lost some, treasured the select few people I deem friends, still do, and I must say it has been such an eye opener. People will hate on you for the smallest, silliest and craziest reasons. They are always so free and ready to shred you down once their way of how you should live your life does not come into play. Note, I said THEIR way of how YOU should live YOUR life, not YOURS. Correct me if I am wrong but, we were all born alone, we shall all die alone. The way I live my life does not necessarily have to be the way you think it should be. In this case, it doesn’t matter whether it is your friend, sister, cousin, frenemy…regardless!



It is important to know some vital things….not everyone has to be your friend, most times, out of ten people you consider your friend, only two are actually rooting for you. Trust me! I know this very well because I have and we all have at one time or another played both sides.

You have been a good friend, but you have also fallen short and at one time been that friend who couldn’t wait for your friend to turn her back for you to talk smack. Admit it, we have all been there, no one is perfect.

The less people you have around you, who know your business, your relationships, your lifestyle, the better. I always say a prayer everyday and ask God to open my eyes and show me my friends, and, my enemies too. I pray that he should remove anyone in my life who is envious or is jealous or just doesn’t have my best interests at heart, and guess what….it works. I cannot count the number of people who have been removed from my path this year alone, people who I never thought, and as I lose them to be honest I feel more grounded, less burdened, more free spirited and alot happier. Do not be afraid to lose ‘friends’ that is the biggest injustice you can do to yourself. Let them go.

Not everyone has to like you. The faster we realise that the happier we will be. We carry a lot of baggage as it is, some more than others. We always question, what will my friend think? What will my boss say? What will my family think? The only person who matters is you. Those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind, (mostly all the time) don’t matter whatsoever. The only person you need to validate you is YOU!

Be your own checking point, once that is in place, the people who are worth being around you will fall into place automatically, effortlessly. Toxic people/negative people/bad belle people call ‘em what you may..they will bring you down, drain you and never be happy for you.

Keep a few people around you…know your circle and keep the squares out…Pick and choose the people you surround yourself with.

In conclusion, here’s a question or two… who do you spend most of your time with? Do they help you towards your goals or pull you from them? If not then why are they in your life? Do they really care for you and your well being? Or are they just waiting for you to turn your back so they can say something about you!!

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Guys, here are eight things you’d regret doing with your woman

It’s fun when in a relationship, both of you love the same things and do some really intense things together.

But those things might have more downsides than you think and might eventually lead to the end of that relationship.

Here are the things that guys need not do with their women if they want the relationship to last.

1. Visiting the gynaecologist with her: this is a very sensitive topic and honestly if you’re married, then go all the way with her. But if you’re not married and you just got into a relationship with this woman and she asks that you go with her to her gynaecologist, you might want to give this a serious thought. This is because when you get into the ward with her, the gynaecologist would ask her really personal questions about her down there, if he realises you are her boyfriend then he might probe you too, trying to get clearer answers knowing you know the place more than him. Now, if you discuss “the place” medically with the doctor, you might never see it the same way again. It becomes less of a sexy place and more of an organ you know so much biology about.

2. Never crash her girls’ time out: so they are having a girls’ time out and this time it is your woman hosting them. Since she’s at yours, she decides to bring them in and then because you are around, you think it’ll be okay to hang with them while they discuss everything.

This is a bad idea. She won’t like it and might not mention it. She’d prefer you let her be with her girls and be free with them and they would honestly prefer it too.

So yeah, you can buy the drinks and the small chops or whatever, but stay away.

3. Friends with your ex: You are still friends with your ex because she’s a very nice person and you just think it’s mature for you both to remain friends rather than enemies. You then believe for some reason that your woman would love her and introduce them. Either of two things will happen. Your woman either hates her and vice versa (this is the more likely option), leaving you with a big problem on your hands or your woman loves her and vice versa and they become good friends and discuss everything. EVERYTHING that might include things you’d rather they don’t, which leaves you with an even bigger problem.

You might want to leave your ex where she should be, your past and face your future, your woman.

4. Analysing other women: never be tricked into the “do you think she’s pretty” conversation by your woman. Whether the woman is someone you both know or a celebrity. She would most likely listen to how you discuss this other woman and relate it to her thereby having insecurities stem up.

5. Getting inked: maybe you are both so in love with each other and you have both decided to get tatted with the same images or each other’s name. Or maybe you just use each other’s pet names or initials.

That might be a very silly move. This is because once you’re not married, the chances of breaking up are higher and what happens when you’re without her but with the tattoo? This gets funnier if you’ve got her name or face tatted on you. How would your next spouse feel about it?

If you know you love this woman so much and can’t do without her then marry her. At least do that before dragging her to the tattoo parlour to get inked with each other’s God knows what.

6. Arguing in front of friends or family: you’d hate yourself for this when it’s over. Whoever started it, find a way to end it. Sometimes women can’t control themselves or the way they act in public but as a man, you should be able to end it before it gets out of control.

If you let your pride get in the way and you tell yourself “what does she think she’s doing talking to a man like that…” Then you are making the situation worse and giving your relationship a very bad outlook.

Don’t ever argue in front of other people. At least patch it up till you are alone.

7. Recording a sex tape: this is never a good idea. If the relationship ends, a lot of bad things might happen and leave you both wishing you never got frisky enough to turn on the camera. Even if the relationship doesn’t end, the video might get into the wrong hands. You might believe you will take good care of it but what happens when there’s a mistake? Or when a third party suddenly finds it?

Think about this very well if you must do it.

8. Sexual fantasies: as a man you’ve got your fantasies and they include a threesome or some other intense sexual action. Before you take the step of making your woman partake in it, think about it deeply. Because she just might do it just to please you and hate herself for it after. Even if she says she’s okay with it, watch her carefully, listen to her needs and be sure she wants to really do this thing. Your relationship should be more important than a sexual fantasy.

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The Six types of girlfriends a woman should flee from.

It is really a cold world out there and after having to deal with work stress, traffic wahala and a whole lot of emotional, physical and mental stress, the last thing a woman needs is a bitchy frenemy.

If we could lay our hands on an app or machine that can help us decode the next person’s thoughts towards us, it would be amazing! But we cannot and it hurts when people backstab us after we’ve truly and genuinely opened our hearts to them.

There might not be a app yet (we hope science would create one soon lol) but here are signs, that if attributed, means that your girlfriend doesn’t care about you and is one big frenemy.

1. The competitor: since when you’ve been friends with this woman, all she does is try to outdo you in everything you do. It feels like you are in some business together and the competition never feels healthy. For instance, you come back from work and share your best day news to her and so as not to be left out, she launches into a story of her own day which is greater and doesn’t even seem to be bothered about your news.

You meet a great guy and gist her and rather than listen to you talk and share your joy with you like you would with her, she’s already discussing many great men she just recently met too. This is one person who doesn’t care about you or your good news. If she keeps doing this all of the time, then maybe she’s not a friend.

2. Its all about her: when she’s not competing with you, she’s talking about herself all of the time. She calls you at very awkward hours to discuss her life, issues and work but is never really there to hear you share yours.

She’s never ready to hear your story but always eager to discuss hers.

Sure she’s a friend?

3. She puts you in an uncomfortable position more than once: if all she does everytime you guys are out together is to take you places she knows you’d rather not go and where you can’t leave easily, then check her.

Also if she’s set you up on a date more than once with the type of man that isn’t your type, then she really needs to be checked.

No real friend puts her girlfriend in an uncomfortable situation everytime.

4. She always transfer aggressions: for everytime she feels bad or angry about something, she doesn’t talk to you about it but ends up transferring the aggression on you. Whenever you try to find out what the problem might be, she shuts you out but that doesn’t make her open up still.

Nobody should subject anyone to this every other time. If she doesn’t wanna share, then she shouldn’t sulk about it. We all got our own problems.

5. She’s secretive: Maybe she’s had something to do with your ex or current man in the past before you met him and stays mum about it. Then she finally reveals when its too late or at the weirdest time.

Maybe she finds out your man did something that’ll hurt you and keeps quiet about it. Then when you find out, she says its cos she didn’t want you to take it out on her.

You might say this is logical but it really isn’t. Anybody who is your true friend would do things that is best for you regardless of how you would react or feel about it.

Being secretive about that isn’t wise, its simply silly. And anybody who keeps vital information like this from you isn’t one you really can trust. I mean, how many things might they really be hiding?

6. Ms Questionable motive: ever had as friend who behaves badly to you or hurts you, apologizes, does it again and after getting your forgiveness, repeats the whole cycle of messing up?

Ever had a friend who you told something confidential and then you hear it from your other friends later? Then she apologizes and oops! It happens again?

Ever wondered if this person is a friend or an enemy? This type of friend isn’t even a frenemy, this is an enemy. No friend of yours would do this to you.

You wonder why she’s still with you, pretending to be friends? She’s out to do something bad to you. Something you’d never get out off and something you should avoid by getting rid of the little bitch.

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Toolz Gives Dating Advice

 

Voluptuous on-air-personality, Tolu Oniru shared one of her relationship experiences on her website last week in an article titled:’Thou shall not lie to yourself’, she shares the tale of how she was in love with a guy that wasn’t in love with her , but liked her enough to keep her as a friend. i recommend this to every lady.
She said:


” We met during my final year of university; he had just moved from Houston and didn’t know a lot of people in London, and after a few random conversations about course work, he asked me out. Our first date was amazing, and after about a month of seeing each other a few times a week, I was almost certain he was ‘the one’.
“After dancing around the issue for a week or two, I was finally brave enough to bring up the ‘where are we’ issue. His exact words were ‘I really like you Tolu, but I’m not looking for a relationship right now’. I had to take a moment to mentally pick up the fragments of my broken heart, then I smiled at him and said ‘No worries, it’s okay’
“I did, however, learn a valuable lesson from this – one of the worst things you can do in life is lie to yourself, and potentially rob yourself of what you truly deserve. Whether it be a relationship, a job, whatever situation it is, do your best to be honest with yourself. If a situation isn’t giving you what you need, don’t fool yourself – have enough self-respect to say ‘I’m not getting what I want from this situation… and I honestly won’t be able to settle.”

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Rapper 2shotz Reveals He Met His Wife On Twitter

In this chat with Punch, William Orioha, a.k.a 2shotz and his wife, Precious who got married a year ago on April 12, 2013 give an insight into the thrills of their 12-month-old marriage.


How did you meet?

2shotz: I went to see her at a restaurant in Ajao Estate, Lagos. We had been talking on phone for a while before then. We ate, I went to drop her at home. Her family and friends knew who I was. Apparently, she did not know me until they started to hail me. Later, we went to a bar, had drinks there and we just clicked. It was not planned neither did I have it in mind that this was what I wanted to do. At that time, I was not trying to be in a relationship.

Precious: I met him on Twitter. I can’t remember who followed who first, but I remember he put up a picture of his apartment and I commented without knowing who he was. He thanked me and we got talking. We moved the conversation from Twitter to phone, then to Skype. I was in Ireland, came to Nigeria for Christmas and we met in person.

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7 Tips on How to Keep Your Relationship Strong

Everybody wants to make their relationship stronger and healthier, but many people don’t know how to do that. Many couples sometimes find themselves working against one another when times are rough. Financial issues are the number one cause of fights and divorces. Making a relationship strong is not always easy, but the advantages of keeping a long-term, committed relationship outweigh the problems and difficulties that you face. Here are a few effective ways to keep your relationship strong.

1. Stop arguing over money

As I mentioned above, finances is one of the greatest causes of fights. Although we are in a recession now, you and your partner should stop arguing over money to keep your relationship strong. Don’t complain and don’t bicker. Think together about things you spend on, how you could make more money and how you can save. Work together and your relationship will be much stronger.

2. Be more affectionate

To keep your relationship stronger you should be more affectionate and bear in mind why you love your boyfriend or husband. Don’t forget to tell him that you miss or love him. You can choose something that you know he will like at the supermarket, or give him a massage.

Read also – The Importance of Integrity in Building Relationships

3. Make your partner a priority

Give your relationship a priority in order to keep it strong and healthy. Sure, it will not be your top priority all the time. You will have some situations where your children need to come first, or where you should pay more attention to your career. Even if your relationship cannot be your number one priority, it should always be a priority. Devote your time to your partner, when possible. Be thoughtful, attentive and focus on your relationship. If your phone rings in the middle of a conversation, ignore it – you can call back later.

4. Respect each other when you argue

No one wants to argue, however it’s a part of life. When you argue with your partner, make sure you do it well. Try to listen to one another and don’t interrupt. You should hear each other and try to understand each other no matter what.

5. Share things with your partner

A common relationship complaint is that your partner withdraws. It can be because he is upset or stressed, or he is worrying about something. Try to talk to him and ask him to share his problems with you. You should also share your love, fear, worries and responsibilities with your partner. Even if your partner can’t help you, he will appreciate the fact that you trust him.

Read also – 4 Signs He’s Not the Right Man for You

6. Be friends

Just because you are a couple, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be friends as well. Don’t say things that you would never say to your close friend. Spend some quality time together having fun, so that your relationship does not become all about the seriousness.

7. Don’t get upset over trifles

I cannot remember how many times I have asked my husband not to leave his socks all over the house, or wash his dish after breakfast or dinner when I’m very busy. I cannot also remember how many times my husband has asked me to not forget to turn the heating off, but I often forget about it. We never argue about such small things, though. If you’re angry at him, take a deep breath and exhale your anger out. The trifles are not worth getting frustrated over.

Sure, there are many other ways to keep your relationship strong and healthy, but these are very important to keep in mind. These ways don’t require much effort or time, only thoughtfulness. What do you do to keep your relationship strong? Share your tips with us, please.

Photo: laradanielle

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7 Tricks and Tips for a Successful Workout

 

Looking for better results from your workout? It’s never easy to succeed in reaching our fitness goals, but there are a few tricks and tips for a better workout that can help you to reach any fitness goal. These tips may seem simple and not effective, but they actually work. Sometimes the simple changes you make to your life can make the huge difference of all. The simple things such as eating fewer potato chips and drinking more water daily are easy ways to stay healthier with almost no effort. Similarly, these tricks and tips for a successful workout will help you burn more calories and see better results in less time.
1. Set a workout goal

When you are trying to improve your workouts, setting a workout goal is a must. Maybe your goal is to run a 5K or complete that difficult yoga pose or whatever. When you have a goal, you have more productive and successful workouts that show great results way quicker than when you don’t have any goal. Check out the races and competitions in your area, sign up for a competition or race that is scheduled in the next several months, and start your training. This is one of the best ways to better your workout.
2. Exercise in public

While working out at home can be hard and not effective, working out at the gym or in a class is a sure way to reach your workout goal. To tell the truth, I’m not a big fan of working out in public, but this really helps me to exercise better and see positive results.
3. Dynamic stretching

For a more successful workout, it’s important to complete pre-workout dynamic stretches. You need to warm-up your muscles, tendons, ligaments, and blood vessels. Consider completing dynamic stretches such as jumping jacks or toe touches before your workout. It will boost your performance and lower the risk of injuries during your workout.
4. Log daily workouts

One of the easiest ways to see greater improvement in your workouts is to log daily intensity, workouts, and how you feel after exercising. This will push you to work harder and better through any workout you do. If you don’t have time to log it, you can download an app that logs all runs.

Read also – 4 Rules to Live by to Lose Weight and Keep it Off
5. Get a workout buddy

If you don’t want to work out in public, you should find a workout buddy who will push you during your workouts and during those times when you don’t feel like exercising. When you exercise with a buddy, you work harder and longer. Also, a workout buddy can help you reach your fitness goals.
6. Have a schedule

Having a schedule is key to a successful workout. It can be something as simple as running on Mondays, cardio on Wednesdays, swimming on Thursdays and practicing yoga daily between. When you have a schedule of your workouts for the upcoming week, you know what you have to do. Without a schedule, you can end up having a last minute workout that is not effective and that won’t help you reach your fitness goal. If you already have a schedule, make sure you stick to it.
7. Get a heart rate monitor

Perhaps this is the last thing you think about when you’re trying to improve your workouts, but a heart rate monitor is an essential thing. The rate at which your heart pumps blood is a good indicator of how effective and hard you’re exercising and what you need to do a bit differently. You might work your body beyond the point of health to boost your performance, but it’s actually doing nothing for your workout and overall health. Get a heart rate monitor to find out your heart rate and ensure you don’t exercise too much.

Following these simple tips is a great way to reach your fitness goals and find more success when you exercise. Do you know any other tips for a better workout? Feel free to share them with us.

Photo: mikebaird

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7 Simple Ways to Speed Up Your Metabolism Every Morning

As we wake up early in the morning, we often question if we should get up and exercise or lay in bed for another hour. You will never drop those extra pounds if you skip your exercise regularly. Little changes such as adding in a morning exercise will speed up your metabolism and help you lose weight. Check out the list of seven ways to boost your metabolism each morning.
1. Begin your day with exercise

When you start your day with exercise, you speed up your metabolism, burn more calories and make healthier choices throughout the day. When you are sleepy and not active, you tend to crave fatty and sugary snacks throughout the day to boost your energy levels. Start your day right and you’ll set the tone for the rest of your day.
2. Add interval training

To speed up your metabolism, try doing high intensity bursts of workout every few minutes, drop it down and repeat. If you add interval training into your exercise, you will burn more calories and feel less tired. This is a great way to boost your metabolism in the morning.

Read also – 7 Tricks and Tips for a Successful Workout
3. Have an apple

While an apple a day keeps the doctor away, it also helps speed up your metabolism in the morning. Apples are high in pectin that is a great metabolic booster. I suggest you to eat your apple before exercising. You will have more energy and feel less hungry.
4. Drink up

To rid your body of toxins, flush out your kidneys and boost your metabolism, drink two glasses of water in the morning on your commute to work. If you don’t want to stop your car for a bathroom break, make sure you don’t drink more than two glasses of water. You should also drink water throughout the day, don’t forget about it.
5. Make a green shake

A green shake is easy to make and it will help speed up your metabolism in the morning. Have some fruits, kale, flax seed and coconut water mixed into power shake and the drink is ready. A green shake will help replenish your body, boost your metabolism after your morning exercise, and overall fuel your day. What a wonderful and delicious way to begin your day!
6. Have a positive attitude

This may sound strange but by being positive you can also speed up your metabolism in the morning. When you begin your day with a positive attitude, you accomplish more tasks throughout the day and you are less stressed. Start your day with a smile, believe, stay positive, work your butt off and you’ll certainly reach your health and fitness goals.

Read also – 7 Most Effective Ways to Let Go of the Past Today
7. Stretch your muscles

As you arrive at your workplace, take a few deep breaths and stretch your muscles. Just breathe, stretch your arms above the head and do a few arm circles to tone your shoulders and to release tension in them. While doing this, you’re burning some calories, be sure.

Follow the aforementioned tips and you will boost your metabolism, drop those unwanted pounds and reach your health and fitness goals. What do you do to speed up your metabolism in the morning? Share your tips, please.

Photo: LisaW123

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Oh dear! P-Square on the verge of splitting. Read full details...

  

Yesterday I reported about the friction going on between the Okoye brothers. I didn't say they'd split, I only asked a question based on all the things I've been hearing and Jude Okoye's tweet. When asked yesterday, P-Square's publicist, Bayo Adetu, said the report is 'baseless and untrue'. Unfortunately, it is not! It's either Bayo is clueless as to what is happening in the Okoye household at the moment or he thinks the best thing to do for now is to deny that there's anything going on.

I wrote that the twin brothers Peter and Paul engaged in physical combat on Wednesday. If this was false, Peter is a social media person, he would have immediately denied it. He didn't!

Unfortunately P-Square fans, things are even worse than I reported yesterday. According to my findings, Peter Okoye wants out of P-Square and they have even gone as far as inviting a lawyer to divide their fortune. Continue...

Now, let me make this clear. This report is based on what's been happening with the brothers up until right now Saturday April 19th. I don't know what will happen tomorrow, next week or next year but as of right now, Peter Okoye doesn't want anything to do with P-Square. I'm still hoping and many others are, that they will resolve their issues and realize that splitting will do no one good. So hopefully, they will resolve their issues. But I will still go ahead and tell you guys what's happening with the brothers as of now.

First, Peter Okoye has moved out of Squareville mansion in Omole where he lived with his brothers for years and now lives in Lekki Phase 1 with his wife Lola Omotayo and their children. An industry person I spoke with, who knows what's been going on, told me this;

"Yes they fought this week. Peter even left a mark on Paul's left eye. But the fight wasn't during rehearsal, which rehearsal? Peter has refused to do anything P-Square for weeks now. Forget that he was at his brother's wedding, things are not good between them right now. They were even invited to perform at president Jonathan's wedding but they didn't go. Peter wants out. He said Paul and Jude are sidelining him. That if they push out 200 songs, 199 would be songs Paul did. That people are now calling him a dancer in P-Square. Peter is really angry. He's even the cool and friendly one between the brothers but he is not himself right now. And then he accused his brother Jude of disrespecting his wife. Peter and Jude haven't spoken in weeks. Peter said Jude has been disrespecting Lola for years and he was done tolerating the BS. In fact Peter said that not only is Lola older than Jude, but that she's also pregnant and Jude was upsetting a pregnant woman. If you notice Jude didn't attend their wedding last year despite the fact that he was in Nigeria. Jude asked Peter why he didn't marry Lola when their mother was alive. Jude said it's his wife that is pushing him and they will need to pray for him. In fact nobody in the Okoye family likes Lola and they didn't support the marriage. The brothers are really angry at each other. The police is even involved. This week, either the commissioner of police or someone from his office visited their house.
The worst part is that they have invited lawyer to come and share property o. They want to share everything. The lawyer was at their house I think on Thursday. Peter said no more P-Square joint ventures. You know they own everything together, including a house in Omole, Parkview and Atlanta. Except something is done fast P-Square is about to be finished. But I know that people have been intervening and begging them to reconsider, that they are the biggest musical duo in Africa. Nobody will benefit if they split. The power to make money is in their togetherness.
It is Jude people are begging to keep the brothers together, but after what he tweeted yesterday, it may truly be over for P-Square. Jude has really tried for his brothers, for him to give up may mean it's over for them.
He practically put his entire life on hold for his brothers. Even sold his first car to shoot their first video but all that is about go come to an end like he tweeted. The only thing that can save the situation is if by a miracle Jude and Lola settle their differences but I don't see that happening"Oh dear. Hopefully, these boys will find each other again. They are brothers, they have to. Long live P-Square! May they never break up.

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9 Habits That Endanger Your Health: What Every Woman Should Know

 

While most of us make it a point to eat healthy and exercise as often as possible, we tend to ignore other simple things that actually take a toll on our well-being. Find out if you are compromising on your health everyday by indulging in these habits that you must say goodbye to pronto.

Wearing heels often: Do your back and feet a favour and keep the high heels only for special occasions. Victoria Beckham and Kim Kardashian may swear by their towering stilettos but they also have a battery of help to cater to their every need. An alarming number of women have started wearing heels on a daily basis, or every other day. And experts say that wearing high heels affects posture, puts a lot of pressure on joints, and at times even lead to conditions like painful bunions, hammer toes, back pain and arthritis. Not to mention the risk of twisting your leg and falling down.
Damage control: Ensure that if you have to wear heels often, they aren't more than 1.5 inches. Alternatively, carry a pair of flats while you travel and wear heels only for some time. Rest your feet after wearing heels by soaking feet in warm water.

Lugging around a heavy handbag: Most women's handbags weigh an average two to five kilos. Shocked? You should be. The sheer number of things women keep and carry in their handbags can scare most men off. But carrying around such heavy bags put your health at risk, you're inviting health problems like back, neck and shoulder pain. Your posture also goes for a toss, lugging around a heavy bag will make you slouch sooner or later.
Damage control: Make it a habit to empty your bag every week or two and carry only absolutely necessary items. Or even better, switch to a smaller bag to avoid the temptation of putting more things in your handbag.

Not removing your makeup at night: Sometimes even the most meticulous women give in and don't remove their makeup before turning in at night. While this cardinal sin is a strict no-no, what you should know is that leaving makeup on all night is inviting skin problems. Your face needs to be cleaned of the makeup, dirt and oil at the end of the day or you will face problems like clogged pores, tired looking skin and pimples. Wearing eye makeup overnight can cause eye irritation or even infection.
Damage control: Keep a bottle makeup remover and cotton swabs right next to your bed so that no matter how tired you are, you can just reach out and remove the makeup.

Trying to outdo men at drinking: Among those women who feel they can drink as much as men if not more? Do yourself a favour and stay away from such drinking competitions. On an average, women not only weigh lesser than men, they also have lesser body water to dilute the alcohol, meaning they get drunk faster. Not to mention the damage you do to your liver by these binge drinking sessions.
Damage control: Let the men drink themselves silly. Recognise your limits and stick to them.

Wearing ill-fitting bras: Over a whopping 65% of women are thought to wear the wrong sized bra. And wearing an ill-fitting bra can have repurcussions like neck, back and breast pain, bad posture, skin irritation and even breathing problems. Not only will your clothes sit badly on you but you will also slouch a bit.
Damage control: Go to a lingerie store and get yourself measured by an expert so that you know your exact size. And since women's bodies tend to change, get yourself measured once a year.

Dwelling over the past: When you refuse to let go or stop thinking of your past or worrying incessantly about the future, you are damaging your present as well your future. Mental stress can drain you of energy and affect you in more ways than you realise. And according to studies, women have a higher chance of suffering from stress-related disorders than men.
Damage control: If you find yourself depressed or anxious, ask yourself what is causing it. Is it a broken relationship or health woes? Address the problem at the root and don't be afraid of asking for help.

Worrying about looks: Vanity affects both the sexes but it affects a far larger number of women than men. And women have a range of body issues, which can take a toll on them mentally. Going on numerous diets, having eating disorders and undergoing excessive cosmetic surgery can cause you physical harm.
Damage control: Toss those beauty magazines in the trash and improve your body image by making a conscious effort. Be happy with what you've been given.

Emotional eating: When was the last time you reached out for that comfort food and guiltily ate it? Women are genetically more emotional than men while comfort eating affects both sexes, it is said that men tend to eat emotionally when they're happy and women when they are upset. And women tend to satiate their cravings with sweet, high calorie foods instead of healthier options.
Damage control: Next time instead of allowing the cravings to get the better of you (and your waistline), distract yourself with something other than food.
Not sleeping enough: Do you get your eight hours of sleep every night? Or do you scrimp and then sleep all weekend? Don't blame a hectic lifestyle or stress on not getting enough sleep. Not only can inadequate sleep make you feel lethargic, it can also make you look like hell, apart from causing accidents, overeating and an increased heart disease risk. Sleep affects your blood pressure and mood more than it affects men.
Damage control: Go to sleep early as often as you can and wake up at the same time everyday.
- TimesOfIndia

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Oh wait! Don Jazzy also has the N20million De Grisogono watch

 
 

2 days ago, I showed you Freeze Coolfm's De Grisogono Instrumento watch worth about $120,000 which is almost N20million (See here). Apparently Don Jazzy also has the same watch. These are pics from like four years ago. Don Jazzy even wore his own with pyjamas...lol...I love this guy. See close up pic after the cut...

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Iyanya Visit Victims Of Abuja Bomb Disaster [Photos]

  

 

Iyanya is at Abuja and he visited one of the hospitals where the Nyanya bomb blast victims are being treated.

  

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How South African Immigration officials hate on Nigerians...

 

A travel agent narrates how her client was disrespected, illegally held in a cell and deported from South Africa after arriving the country yesterday April 18th...because according to SA immigration, the man hadn't paid for his hotel reservation. And we've all heard the stories of how Nigerians and their businesses are attacked in the country. What is going on? Read what she wrote below...

"One of my biggest clients, Michael Olusegun Osatuyi decided to spend a weekend break during the Easter period in South Africa to get away from the stress of his job for a while.
"He purchased a South African Airways Business Class ticket worth over N500,000 for this purpose and proceeded to set out on Thursday, April 17th 2014. As with all trips abroad he had previously made, he made a hotel reservation via booking.com. When he arrived the Lagos airport, he was informed he could not board the flight unless the reservation had been paid for. This was promptly done on the hotel website, Crowne Plaza Rosebank Johannesburg and the card was pre-authorised after which he was allowed to board the flight.
The first question is: when citizens of other countries travel to South Africa, are they forced to pay for their stay before they arrive the hotel premises? Are they denied boarding even when they have confirmed reservations booked with their debit/credit card details? In spite of this, Mr. Osatuyi paid and boarded.

When he arrived Johannesburg at 5.00am South African time on Friday, the 18th, the immigration officer called the hotel and reached a member of staff that saw the cancelled booking.com reservation and said the reservation had not been paid for.

My client promptly called me and I in turn called Crowne Plaza and spoke to a professional gentleman called Mondli who sent me the proof of payment and a copy of the reservation. I sent them to Mr. Osatuyi, who by this time had his phones seized from him by the immigration officials and locked up in a common cell with the key taken away like a criminal!!!

When I could no longer reach Mr. Osatuyi, I called various numbers of the South African immigration until I reached the woman in charge of the case. To say she was hostile would be an understatement. She refused to give her name but she picked up the phone number +27115718734 four times between the hours of 7:14 and 8:20 South African time so she can easily be traced. I explained that the hotel employee she spoke to had referred to the booking.com reservation and that she should call the hotel again to confirm that there was indeed proof of payment. She insisted that she can only call any hotel once after which I asked the Hotel Manager to call her which he did. He later informed me that she was extremely hostile and said she had taken a decision that could not be reversed and that Mr. Osatuyi had been assigned to leave with the next flight back to Lagos at 2:00pm.

Mr. Osatuyi was denied access to his phones, a lawyer and consular staff throughout his stay in that cell. He had a business class ticket but was denied access to the business lounge at the airport until he boarded the flight.

This situation, in my opinion is completely unacceptable! Even in more advanced countries like the United States and United Kingdom, passengers are granted the right of access and hotel reservations are paid for on arrival at the hotel.

Why are Nigerians treated like trash in South Africa? Mr. Osatuyi deserves an unreserved apology from the South African government because it is a slap on the citizenry of this country and we find it unacceptable that a hard working person like himself would be treated as a criminal charged with an offence.

I also believe that if this trend continues, we should be reciprocal in our attitude towards South African citizens when they arrive our shores. Full payment of hotel accommodation must be made before they board flights to our esteemed country.

Enough is enough! Justice must be served.
Sincerely
Adebisi Adegbite Kuforiji

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Read President Jonathan's Easter Message To Nigerians

 

Dear Compatriots,

I greet you all, especially our Christian brothers and sisters who are celebrating Easter and commemorating the resurrection of Jesus Christ today.

As we join Christians in other countries of the world in celebrating Easter this year, I urge all Nigerians to reflect on the significance of its lessons of piety, obedience to higher authorities, self sacrifice for the good of others, redemption, salvation, deliverance, renewal and the ultimate triumph of good over evil.



These lessons of Easter and other injunctions on brotherly love, peaceful co-existence, tolerance, honesty, humility, justice, equity and fairness to all without discrimination contained in the Gospels are of particular importance to us as a nation as we continue to contend with the challenges of nation-building and development.

As our Christian compatriots celebrate the Messiah’s triumph over death and all that it connotes, let us all renew our faith and confidence in our ability as a people to overcome all obstacles, challenges and threats to national progress and well-being, including terrorism and other criminal attacks on our people in some parts of the country.

My belief in our ability to overcome all retrogressive and divisive forces in our midst and build a strong, united and prosperous nation by turning our unique diversity into a source of strength remains unshaken and we will continue to work with all interest groups and stakeholders in the country to achieve the peaceful, secure and politically stable conditions essential for rapid socio-economic development.

In spite of the evil machinations of terrorists, criminals and their collaborators, our Administration remains ardently focused on efforts to successfully execute the Federal Government’s Agenda for National Transformation and achieve sustained development.

We have already made notable advances in this regard. As a result of our efforts and those of previous administrations, the Nigeria economy is now the largest in Africa and the 26th largest in the world.

But we cannot afford to rest on our oars. Much remains to be done and we will continue to count on the patriotic support of all Nigerians as we strive to achieve more inclusive economic growth, generate more national wealth and create more employment opportunities to meet the demands of our increasingly youthful population.

I commend the leadership and delegates to the ongoing National Conference, the vast majority of who have shown a patriotic and praiseworthy commitment to national unity, peace and progress built on justice, fairness and equity for all component parts of the country.

As the Conference breaks into committees to continue its deliberations, it remains our hope and expectation that the end result will be meaningful and enduring contributions towards strengthening national unity and fulfilling our collective desire for a better and greater nation.

Once again, I extend heartfelt commiserations to all the families who have sadly lost loved relatives in recent terrorist attacks.

Our thoughts and sympathies remain with all those who have suffered injuries from the heinous attacks. We pray for their speedy recovery and shall keep on doing everything possible to assist them with required medical services and material support.

Our Armed Forces and security agencies will continue to do their very best to curb such attacks and restore full security to all parts of our beloved country.

But we must all become more alert and vigilant, and do all that we can to give them the fullest possible assistance, support and cooperation they require to achieve more effective protection of lives and property across the country.

We shall continue to count on your support and prayers for greater peace, harmony, progress and prosperity in Nigeria.

May God Almighty bless our dear nation and guide us, always.

Happy Easter to you all.

Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, GCFR
President,
​Federal Republic of Nigeria

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